Tag: #healthyhabits

Neuropeptides and Emotional Regulation

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

Do you often find yourself feeling unhappy, anxious, stressed out, or angry?  

Periods of stress in our lives are part of the human experience, and can be a tremendous catalyst for growth and personal evolution.  Life is a gorgeous, complicated, challenging, and joyful adventure – and the contrast we experience is necessary to add depth and meaning – wholeness – to the story of our lives. 

But we aren’t meant to stay in that place of unhappiness for long periods. When our periods of upheaval become chronic, the constant release of cortisol and adrenaline, necessary in primitive times for short fight-or-flight responses, become a mood disorder that if left unresolved, can really f#ck up the brain and body. This “stuck” cycle can not only cause depression, memory loss, weight gain/loss and sleep issues, but also inflammation that can lead to a host of other issues and illnesses from diabetes, cancer and more.

The good news is that just because we have moments of stress doesn’t mean that we have to stay in the stress response indefinitely.  We can return to a place of greater emotional ease in less than two minutes, if we can understand what is happening in our nervous system.  

Most important is to realize that the brain’s stress response only takes 90 seconds to move through the body.

When we encounter things in our life that make us feel triggered – anxious, frustrated, angry, fearful, or sad, (insert your own favorite dysregulation response here_______🙄…) it can be easy to stay in that feeling state for much longer.  This is because we keep the stress response loop repeating itself instead of redirecting the brain’s focus to something happier.

But there are many ways to #flipyourhappyswitch when difficult or challenging circumstances in our lives may lower our #baselinehappy. 

We can bypass hours or even days’ worth of unhappiness with a few simple neurobiology “hacks” that redirect the brain’s wiring.  Consistent practice of these techniques will, over time, create a healthier stress response, too; which is pretty freaking awesome – the sooner we can get back to a feeling of joy in our lives, the sooner we can get back to being the amazing creators of reality that we are supposed to be.

Taking some deep nasal belly breaths stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system and “tricks“ the mind into thinking that we are all good – or at least not in a heightened state of trauma response or fight or flight.  This is where I always begin when I am personally feeling dysregulated. 

There are a number of other techniques to re-direct the mind back to a state of ease – changing up our environment, listening to music that makes us feel good, going outside to “ground” with a walk, ride, run or swim. (the benefits of being outside are multiplied when we put our bodies in direct contact with the earth.  

I love barefoot trailrunning, but 5 minutes of sitting on the grass can have a profound effect on the body and mind.  Splashing cold water on the face, finding an activity or interest that is creative,  are all wonderful ways to reset the brain, release endorphins and run interference on that stress loop and get us back to a more peaceful or joyous state.

If you are in a place where none of these practices are possible, try this easy, four-step system to bypass the loop of trauma/stress response:

  1. Acknowledge what you are feeling. What is the root emotion causing your feeling of dysregulation? Take a moment to honor that feeling.
  2. Focus on facts – find one or two true things about you. “My name is_____ and I live in _____city/country/state. My parent/sibling/friend/pet is______.
  3. Find something physical – The sun feels amazing on my face. The fabric of my shirt is soft. The bakery in the store smells like cookies and fresh bread. I like to spritz a little of my favorite men’s cologne on a scarf or shirt collar so that I can bring my focus to the scent when I am in a crowd or large “big box” kind of store where I know I can become energetically overwhelmed.
  4. Look for one beautiful thing/Gratitude – feeling grateful triggers release of dopamine, the reward/feel-good hormone. Find one thing in your environment that you can feel truly grateful for – the color of the sky is a particularly pleasing shade of blue right now. The little girl in line front of me has the most amazing big brown eyes. This coffee is delicious. Better yet, find someone to smile at or have a conversation with. (Not a creepy smile, please….) Not only will focusing on someone else re-direct the brain’s stress response, but kindness releases all of the feel – good neurochemicals.Win-win situation, right?😄

I have been putting many of these techniques into practice for years, and I can tell you that they work, but I’ll add to this a list of the most common neurochemicals/hormones and how they affect the mind and body, along with a few more tricks and techniques to get you back to your happy place. 

Happy Brain Chemicals – DOSE

Dopamine – Reward/Hormone. “Pleasure Chemical”. Helps with focus, memory, motivation.

* gratitude. Complete a task or project. Improve sleep habits. Exercise. Do yoga/meditate. Go outside. Have sex – specifically, sex or self-stimulation that triggers orgasm. The greater the dopamine release, the more powerful the orgasm.👀. (Disclaimer – there is such a thing as “too much” when it comes to orgasm. Particularly using a stimulus such as porn, as it can create a tolerance which causes dopamine levels to drop.)

Oxytocin – The “Love Hormone”. Supports mental well being.

* Give a hug! Even self hug or massage will release oxytocin.  Kiss.  Warmth – sit in front of a fireplace.  Drink something warm.  Find a sunny spot. Send a loving text or letter. Snuggle with a pet.  Watch cute kitten videos. 

Serotonin – Feel-good hormone.

* Kindness.  Laughter yoga. Massage. Sunlight – 10 minutes of direct to eyes.  Remember happy memories heart rate

Endorphins – Responsible for pain relief, stress management, feelings of euphoria. Released by central nervous system and pituitary gland.

* Exercise/movement.  More sex. Dance. Acupuncture.  Eat something delicious and nourishing -Dark chocolate specifically triggers the endorphin response in the body. Scent – smell something pleasing.  (Essential oils, fresh-baked cookies, cinnamon, someone you love)

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If you are someone going through a challenging or difficult time, I see you.❤️

I hope this information might help.

If you are in a place where just don’t want to get off of the couch/bed/carpet, I’ve been there, too. It’s ok to give yourself some space to not be ok, to have grace for yourself to be in the experience of those hard emotions – for a little while. But don’t get stuck in that place. Remember that mood follows action.

This means that sometimes, we just have to pick ourselves up by our bootstraps, put on our “big girl/boy pants” and take action. Breathe, meditate, dance, listen to music, hug a loved one or pet, go for a walk, have good sex (even if it’s by yourself) – whatever it is that works best for you to get into a better place. This is self-care.

Wherever you are today, please remember that you are loved. You are a beautiful, magnificent Be-ing; worthy of every good you can imagine.

Much love and extra big hugs.💖

  • Terah

Contrasts and the big picture

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

The last months have brought more challenges and difficulties to my life than in the many years before. 

I separated from my husband of nearly 14 years early last spring and moved out and onto a boat this fall.  Boatlife is awesome in so many ways but also very challenging in others, especially living on a 1969 wooden yacht in the winter.  

I still own my farm in the country and we’ve been through two rounds of major flooding now. 

Watching your life float away as your property is under a foot or more of water is a surreal experience.  Digging out the mountains of mud after the first round of flooding only to have even heavier flooding the following week was in some ways highly charged emotionally, but at the same time, knowing that there is nothing I can do about it at the moment makes it easier to let go of the anxiety and grief that I experienced the first time, standing in my garage up to my ankles in water and mud as my stored possessions and tokens of my children’s life floated around me.

One of my “most important people” passed away last summer.  My aunt Sandra was one of the three women in my life who showed me unconditional love growing up.  She took me in when I was a teenager headed in the wrong direction and gave me a new start, likely altering the entire course of my life for the better.  Her death was earth-shattering for a few weeks.  

I also had an ending to one of my dearest friendships of many years, which is so, so hard as I still hold much love her, but I know that the toxic elements that have been in the relationship for many years are always going to be there, and I have to release those things and relationships that cause ongoing strife and pain in order to move into the place that I know I want to be.  

My daughter has just gotten married and is moving to Okinawa, Japan in January.  I am beyond excited for her (and a little jealous, lol) but it is difficult knowing she will be so far away.  She has been living in Tempe for the last year and a half and it’s pretty easy for me to jump on a plane or plan a road trip to go see her, or fly her up for a family visit.  Not as much when it is a 20-plus hour flight.  

I often get messages from friends and loved ones like “I am so sorry for what you are going through” or “Are you ok?  You must really be struggling right now”.  But the truth is, I am happy the vast majority of the time.  I have an amazing life – and really am not struggling.  For the most part. 

I have times when I have to deal with the literal and metaphoric mud that is in my life.  I’ve got a few dumpster fires for sure.  But here’s how I process the “Contrasts” that we all experience in life and manage to remain happy and grounded 85-90% of the time:

I fully acknowledge and really allow myself to feel the shiznit when it happens.  I yell a little, or cry alot.  In the moment.  I take an honest look at what is happening and what my emotional experience is.   And then I step back and ask myself two questions:  Is this a problem I can solve right now?  And – Is it going to serve me to hold these negative emotions?  

Sometimes, very occasionally, using a so-called negative emotion such as anger to be a catalyst to get off our ass and make some positive change or to drop the toxic elements of our life that are causing the anger can be a good thing.  But more often than not, we allow our negative emotions to hold us as captive as those situations or people that are at the root of our emotional state do.  

So for me, I usually make the decision to let that sh#t go.  

If there is a problem I can solve, I look at the steps to fix it.  One of the biggest challenges to living on an old boat in winter is power usage.  I can’t cook and have my heat on at the same time.  I can’t have my hot water heater on and anything else besides the lights going.  It is an exercise in frustration and I am constantly tripping the circuit breakers.  I’ve had a few times when everything has gone out and it takes some time to trace the problem to its source.  But by addressing each element of the problem in turn, I can usually get things going again.  

With my currently flooding property, there is absolutely nothing I can do to fix the situation.  At the moment.  So I say “fuck it” and set aside the emotional aspects of that problem until I can begin taking steps to dig everything out of the mud again.  

Self-care is absolutely crucial in maintaining a healthy sense of balance and happiness, even in the middle of the shiznit.  Taking time to get some healthy exercise, eat well, spend time with friends and family, take some long, hot baths or whatever mode of self-care feels best for you can make a huge difference in holding onto your happy state.

Right now, I am overlooking a spectacular view of the Pacific ocean and Haystack Rock in Cannon Beach, Oregon.  I have good coffee beside me as I write, and a fabulous, oversized bathtub in the room to soak away all of the residual stress of life.  I’ve been walking the beach, wandering quaint shops and of course, hitting the bookstores.  

Tomorrow I head back to reality but taking some time – whether it’s just a few hours or a few days –  to step away from it all keeps the bigger picture in perspective.  

Ultimately, the contrasts are there to remind us of the good.  When we are in the middle of life’s challenges – especially the big ones – it can be hard to see the big picture.  We get stuck in that tiny bit of black paint that seems our only reality.  But with practice, we can learn to step back and “see” the portrait of our life, recognizing that that bit of black paint is just one small spot of darkness in an otherwise bright and beautiful composition. 

 More importantly, that black “paint” is vital in bringing forward those lights and brights.  It may suck for a bit while you are in it, but beautiful, when you see the whole picture, you will be astounded by the brilliance and beauty of your life.  Truly.  

What are some of the contrasts that you have been experiencing lately – and how do you keep your happy space forward in your mind and heart amidst the challenges life may bring?  

If you are going through some of your own dark spots right now, I hope you know that you are not alone.  I am here with you, and you’ve so got this – but if you need a little extra love and support, I’ve got you back.  You are amazing.  You are worthy.  You are capable, and so very loved.  

Always;

  • Terah

Mud to mountains 2 – Fake it until you make it!

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

Hello gorgeous;

We’ve all heard the adage “Fake it until you make it”.  

This advice can help us to get to the place that we want to be – or cause an emotional trainwreck if we aren’t being honest about where we currently are at the same time.  

Does this sound like a bit of a contradiction? 🤔

In simple terms, we are creatures of habit.  Our brains are vast fields of neurological pathways, and these pathways are the tracks for our physiological, emotional and psychological patterns, conscious and subconscious.  

The route we take to go to work each day is a pathway.  The apple oatmeal and black coffee that we enjoy for breakfast each morning.  The way we respond to our partner, parents or friends when we are joyful and excited – or feeling criticized and devalued.  Our habits of industriousness or sloth.  Our temperament, routines and rituals, tendency to isolate or our extroverted qualities, the way we value others – or ourselves.  

All of these and every other thing we do and think are pathways through the dense field that is our mind and brain matter.  

This is good news because it means when it comes to pulling ourselves out of the mud to begin the trek to the top of the mountain – that place of expansive views, joy, connection and the deliberate creation of our best possible life – it is, more than anything, just an action that we continue practicing until it becomes a habit.  

In the same way that we learn and improve when we practice the piano, painting, a new profession or study habit, picking ourselves up out of the mud to move on to something better after a period of grief, depression, anger or inertia is essentially the same mental action as picking up that paintbrush, textbook or laptop to prune old programs and replace them with new habits and neurological subroutines.  

It might feel uncomfortable, difficult or challenging to begin, but once we practice envisioning a new reality for ourselves – or maybe a new identity would be more appropriate – and we begin to act upon what it is that we wish to see and become, eventually, that vision becomes our new way of being – our new reality.

Imagine • Practice • Do • Become

So what is it, ultimately, that you would like your life to look like in six months?  A year?  Three years?  Five years?  

How would you like to see your personal reality unfold? What would your close relationships look like?

Where would you like to live?  Do you see yourself in a villa by the ocean, living in an urban setting – or maybe a tiny cabin in the woods?

What would you see yourself doing for a living – what do you think or feel that your purpose is?  

What would your income be?

What would you imagine your daily habits being?  Do you go to the gym or run each morning, do you meditate, or sleep in until 10?

How will you change your life?  Whatever you can envision, you can achieve.✨😎

Let me give you an example from a friend/client of mine:

“Rebecca” grew up in a dysfunctional home.  She was taught that her value was in what she did rather than who she was and it was best if she was “seen and not heard”.  

So of course, Rebecca grew up to behave in ways that reflected this value system.  

She neglected her own well being.  She put all of her energy into caring for others.  She withdrew when there was conflict or when she was emotionally uncomfortable.  

She topically believed she had successful relationships, all the while avoiding real intimacy.  

Eventually Rebecca found herself depressed.  She assumed it was just the “pressures of life” and took antidepressants – but while it seemed like she wasn’t really depressed and unable to function anymore, she still didn’t feel emotionally connected to her life. 😓

In fact, she didn’t feel very emotionally connected to anything other than a growing sense of desperation and anger, emotions that she desperately tried to suppress.  

Can you relate to Rebecca’s story so far?  

Eventually, Rebecca began to see a counselor 🥰 who helped her look at childhood patterns that were causing huge blocks in her ability to experience joy, to value herself, to adapt and evolve – and how those patterns were reflected in her current relationships. 

She spent some time grieving for the many years she had neglected to care for the physical and emotional needs and wellness of herself and her inner child as a result of those patterns.  

She learned to reset her vibrational field to allow good to come to her rather than repelling her wishes and dreams due to her subset programs of scarcity and lack of value.

She discovered that she had to learn to self-care and nurture her personal growth, set healthy boundaries with others, and began to prune some of the toxic people who couldn’t accept her boundaries, growth and the radical responsibility for the shaping of her personal reality.  This was a process that was deeply painful but also deeply cathartic.  

Fast forward three years.  Rebecca is living the life that she hadn’t realized she was missing.  She has a truly successful relationship with a partner who enjoys healthy dialogue and honest communication.  This honesty also means intimacy and she understands what real vulnerability and intimacy means.  

She has taken up several hobbies that had interested her in childhood and although she reports that it is sometimes frustrating to not be “better” than she is, she loves the process of learning and slowly gaining skill.  

She had quit her corporate job a couple of years back,  and now works largely from home contracting her skills to large companies.  She loves the freedom this gives her.

She also makes it a point to spend time with friends and family each week to recreate and build personal relationships.  

In short, she has radically turned her life around.  

Rebecca still has occasional days when she feels a little blue.  But knowing that feeling connected, happy and deliberately creating her life is just so much better, she gives herself some grace and space to deeply feel on those days, but also keeps envisioning an ever-expanding future – and joyfully continues to expand into that future.

And you know what?  Rebecca’s blue days will become less and less the more she practices bliss, curating and cultivating the life of her dreams, healthy communication and community with others and most importantly, loving herself into wholeness.   How cool is that?

If Rebecca’s story resonates with you, I’d love to hear your story, too.  How do you lift yourself from the mud after those days that you need to give yourself a little more grace and space to feel deeply and acknowledge those past parts of yourself that might still feel a little broken?  

What habits do you practice that keep your vision clear and ever-expanding and your vibrational field humming at a frequency that allows good to come to you – rather than repelling it with hidden subconscious programs?  

Drop me a comment below!⬇️☺️

And just in case you needed to be reminded today, you are amazing.  You are valuable.   You are a magnificent creation and capable of achieving anything you can dream of, and babe, you are so very loved.🥰

Healing, hugs and much love;

  • Terah💖

Reality Formula – Creating Alignment with the Life of your Dreams

by Terah Drake, posted in self-development

“I think, therefore I am”  – Descartes

Hello, Beautiful;

In this final part of this series, I’m going to give you the formula – and the practices that will take you from Woe to Wow.  From dis-ease to ease.  

To begin, let’s go back to our core belief systems for a moment to discuss how it relates to Personality = Personal Reality.  Our Personality is created largely through our Personal Belief System, and our Personal Belief System creates our reality.  

 Here’s the basic formula for how we create our reality each day:

CBS + T + E/F +B + H = E/R  

Core Belief System (CBS) = Thoughts = Emotions/Feelings/Frequencies = 

Behaviors = Habits = Experience (Results)

Let’s break that down:  

Our Core Belief System, those neurological patterns and programs that began to be established in early childhood, tend to keep us running in a subconscious loop that are based upon our past experience.  

If as children we lived in a home where lack was the norm, it will be difficult to move past the idea that we live in a reality of lack. 

Our Beliefs will perpetuate the thoughts and emotions of lack. (How many times do parents say “we can’t afford this.  We are broke”  Or “we will buy you the cheaper version of what you really want.”  These words create our reality and personal sense of value as children.)  

Those thoughts and emotions of lack will create behaviors that reflect our beliefs. The emotions/feelings of our Core Beliefs cause our brain and body to create neurochemicals.  These can either create physical dis-ease and dysfunction, lowered immune system and a host of other symptoms or greater health, or increased immune function and energy and well-being, depending on whether our thoughts and emotions are positive or negative.    

They also create our behaviors and habits – I have a little extra cash in our pocket.  Because I believe I live in a state of lack, I spend it on some trinket – rather than saving and eventually investing in a healthy future.  The results of these habits of course just reinforce our initial belief – I spent all of my money and I am in lack again. I will always be in lack. And so we are…

Or another example – My parents taught me that I am clumsy.  As an adult, I am constantly falling on stairs, dropping dishes, etc. because I believe I am clumsy.   Falling on the stairs or dropping dishes confirms that Core Belief, putting us into vibrational alignment, which creates more similar experiences.

If we grew up in an environment where our personal reality was abundance, our pre-set programming for continuing to thrive in an environment of abundance is greater.  We will never feel a sense of lack and our behaviors and habits will reflect that.  

Of course, there are different types of lack and abundance beyond the material.  If our family was wealthy but lacked emotional intelligence or love, we will still be more likely to live a life of lack as adults.  Conversely, if we had parents that were financially lacking but loving and supportive emotionally, our capacity for thriving in an environment of abundance as adults is much greater.  

It is important to note that if we experienced childhood or adolescent trauma, our ability to create a life that reflects high personal value will be less, as well.  

This being said, we have to look at a new formula for creating the life we wish to see:

Access/Acknowledge CBS + Reprogram thoughts/Shift emotions + Alignment (Establish behaviors & habits to reflect new reality)+ Behaviors/Habits = Results/Reality

  • In order to create a new reality for ourselves, we have to access and acknowledge the source of our limiting beliefs.  What lines have you drawn in the sand without realizing it – where are those boundaries of belief and what is the origin/source?  What are the thoughts and feelings that accompany these beliefs?

Once we have accessed those beliefs and memories that are perpetuating our subconscious programming, we can begin to reprogram the mind. 

  •  Ask yourself how you would like to expand the boundaries you had previously created for yourself, likely without even realizing you had drawn those lines in the sand?  Visualize wiping those lines away.  
  • Write it down! What do you want to see in your future reality?  Vision boards are a great way to create greater clarity in visualization.  

A vital aspect of beginning to move into that future reality is the emotional vibration of it.  Can you imagine yourself there?  How does it feel? 

For example – If you have a dream of living in the Caribbean, see yourself on the beach.

Feel the warmth of the sand between your toes, cool trade breezes dancing off your skin.  See the crystal-clear turquoise of the water before you.  Imagine your beautiful plantation-style home behind you, surrounded by tall palms and lush greenery. 

I love the feeling of being on a motorcycle.  While I don’t currently own one, I often go back to the feeling visualization of racing through long country roads, green trees rushing past.  Or the wind buffeting my face as I cruise along the California coastline, tall madronas on towering cliffs above the wild Pacific ocean.  

What future reality would you like to see for yourself? It works, believe me. I’ve easily manifested sports cars, homes, amazing vacations around the world, vintage campers… and as just a few examples.  Remove your limits and start visualizing!

Clear your mind.  Get quiet.  Imagine the version of you/reality you wish to see at a distance of say, half a mile away.  Now begin to move in a straight line towards that point. Feel into that space.  Feel the joy there.  Feel the possibility there.  Feel the excitement in that space.   

Try to remain in this mindstate for as long as possible.  The longer and more often we can sustain this higher frequency state, the faster we will notice the fulfillment and manifestation of that reality.  But if you can’t quite get there all the time, give yourself love and grace.  Go back to that one happy thought that can get you closer to that future self.  

Next we need to create habits and behaviors that reflect the personality – personal reality – we want to see.  

  • A habit of presence and gratitude is an essential component in creating a better reality.  Remember that heart coherence creates a healthier body and mind and a vibrational resonance that we send out into the world around us and the quantum realm/Source frequency.  
  • Desire/Ask/Believe/Receive – But what is the vibration in which you are asking?  Tuning in to where our mind is frequently and keeping a daily gratitude journal will help keep our energetic frequencies and neurochemicals vital, healthy and happy.  
  • Create a daily habit of movement and nourishment. How you move is up to you, but daily exercise keeps both mind and body healthier and in a higher vibrational state.  

Find those other habits and behaviors that reflect the reality you are creating.  

Do you want to become an artist?  Paint!  Take classes.  Experiment with different forms of media and components. 

A writer?  Write every damned day, even if it’s only for a few minutes.  

Do you want to open a small (or big) business?  Look into an LLC and a business plan.  

Whatever your dream, try to come back to the state of being that future self (personality) holds as much as possible.  Remember that we are looking for alignment with that ideal reality/personal reality.  A good mantra is simply the question: Am I aligned?

From this place of alignment and coherence, watch the miracles begin to unfold.  I can’t wait to see what the future holds for you, beautiful one.  You deserve every good thing your imagination can hold, and more!

Much love;

  • Terah💖

Precious Human Life

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

Has anyone else noticed that over the last year, we have been 💯 inundated with messages of fear? Politics.  Pandemics.  Mass shootings. (Oh my!) 

Hostility among social groups, friends, and even our loved ones is rampant as many hold differing views on nearly every subject that anyone is talking about right now.  Even some celebrities are jumping on the bandwagon of spreading hate and malcontent. 

 I recently came across Jim Carey’s awful “political art” letter to Melania Trump, calling her the “Worst First Lady”.  Seeing it made me feel sick to my stomach.  

I didn’t particularly like Melania Trump, and I really didn’t like her husband – but who knows why she made the decisions she did?  I can only imagine how hard it would be to be married to DT, Amiright?   But I guess the main question is, who are we to judge so harshly?  How would any of us feel if that kind of vitriol was directed at us?

But there are plenty of other subjects to keep us in a state of angst.

Presidents.  Vaccinations.  Border control. Masks.   

Stay at home.  Get outside.  

Open businesses fully.  Close businesses fully.  

Get rid of guns.  More guns, greater control. 

Black Lives Matter.  All lives matter. 

All Cops Are Bastards.  Law enforcement saves lives.  

De-fund police.  More funding for police to provide better training.  

Avoid social interaction.  We need greater social interaction for emotional and physical wellness.

Peaceful protests.  Out of control riots.

Democrat.  Republican.  Conservative.  Liberal.  Boomer.  Gen Z.   Millennial.  

Save the environment.  F#ck the environment.  

Save the trees.  Raze forests to buy more sh#t from Amazon.  

The list goes on, but you get the point.  Nearly everyone I speak to believes we are in crisis.  Most believe this is a tipping point and many think the world is heading to hell in a handbag.  

I’ve spoken to many Christians who believe we are in the “End Times” as foretold by Revelations.  Shoot, I’ve spoken to agnostics and atheists who think we are in the end times.  Well, maybe we are, maybe we aren’t.  Doesn’t the bible also say “But of that day and hour no man, no, not the angels of heaven, but my Father only.”? (Matthew 24:36)  

So why assume or speculate?  Because some part of us loves the fear.  Loves the drama.  Loves the angst.  Or, if we don’t love it, at least we accept it as “the way it is”.   We become accustomed to this “new way of being” and those new neurological patterns become habits.  

But habits that include daily fear, anxiety, anger, or depression can not lead to an improvement in our circumstances.  In fact, living in the toxic environment of chronic stress impacts our physical and emotional well-being, compromises our immune system, depresses neurological function, and, from the level of frequency, our ability to create a good life.  

This isn’t just woo-woo or psychobabble.  Wondering about the science of that statement?  Let’s break it down.  

One of the major responses to various stressful conditions is the activation of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis  

This is a cycle that begins with the Hypothalamus, (part of the brain responsible for stress control) where it sends signals to the Pituitary Gland (Conduit for chemical messengers that send information to cells throughout the body) that there is environmental stress.  The pituitary gland sends these messengers to the Adrenal Gland, which starts pumping out stress hormones such as Adrenaline and Cortisol.  

This relay of information is based on the bodies’ primitive flight or fight response.  Whether the threat/stress is a saber-toothed lion, a cruel comment on social media, the news’ constant fear-mongering, or an argument about whether Trump or Biden will go down in history as the best – or the worst – president in history, the physiologic response is the same.  

But let’s get back to how the HPA axis affects our body.  As Adrenaline and Cortisol are pumped into the bloodstream, blood flow is re-directed from our gut and vital organs to our external limbs (fight or flight, right?  Fists or feet)  

Now, we generally know that the fight or flight response is a vital and necessary aspect of the survival of the human species.  But thousands of years ago, it might be necessary to fight or run from a threat every once in a while.  But we are living in a time when stress is constant and chronic, which means we are activating the HPA Axis on the daily.  Not good. 

Over time, the nourishment of our vital organs, immune system, and brain become inhibited.  Really, really not good.  

Add to this the fact that many of us have been isolated from our friends and loved ones (seniors and children/teens being the hardest affected by this) which also activates the HPA Axis. 

(Studies have shown that in the absence of affection/love, vital statistics decrease by an average of 30%😳😳) 

Is it any wonder that so many become sick, depressed, or angry?

When we become habituated in an emotional response, that response is programmed into our subconscious as a behavior, and that behavior becomes our personality, for better or for worse.  So occasional frustration becomes habitual anger which becomes an angry, abusive person.  

Yuck, right?  

But when we habituate gratitude and joy, the same happens.  Moments of gratitude turn to contentment, which becomes a happy, healthy human. 

 And who doesn’t want to be a happy, healthy human?

If we become aware of our emotional state – and the huge impact it has on our physical health, the vast majority of us would choose joy over frustration and anger.  

Vibrant health over Dis-ease. 

Love over hate.  

Peace over war and bitterness.  

Creation over destruction.  

So here is an alternative to creating a happier reality:  The next time you find yourself reacting to the media, or social media, or someone’s differing political or other views, just stop for a moment.  Take a big breath and step back from that knee-jerk reaction. Remind yourself of the harm you are doing to yourself and others.

 Remind yourself that you ”have a precious human life and will not waste it.”

Then step back into the conversation with kindness. Agree to disagree.  Value others for their uniqueness and differences.   

Curate the news you expose yourself to or shut it off completely. 

Avoid toxic people or those that try to engage you in argument, even if those people are close to you.  You can love someone from a distance while choosing to create better for yourself.  

Seek social media presences and outlets that lift others rather than tear them down.   

Find healthy habits to substitute those that perpetuate toxic cycles.  Re-programming means overlaying old neurological programs.  

Feed yourself nourishing foods rather than junk.  Eat some good, dark chocolate.  

Cut back on the caffeine.  

Take Epsom salts baths.

Get outside and get some exercise, not only reaping the stress-busting perks of good physical fitness but also the myriad benefits of being in nature.  (See past blog on Shinrin-Yoku/Forest Bathing) 

But most of all, choose to celebrate this life rather than criticize and worry about things out of our control.  Look for the good rather than the ugly.  See the flowers over the weeds.  Or pull the weeds and plant some flowers! 

This is your garden, beloved. Do you want paradise or purgatory? Your choice. 💖

Much love;

– Terah

Healthy Habits & Goals; Creating Strong Foundations

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

Each morning I spend time in meditation and reading wisdom.  For over ten years one of the teachers whose books have inspired me has been Rolf Gates.  I have a sense of reverence, resonance, and gratitude each time I pick up my dog-eared  copy of meditations from the mat, and his words often inspire my own writing.   

This morning the lesson was from his second book of reflections, Meditations on intention and being – finding your mountain; your sense of calm, steadiness and purpose.  

For me, I also relate this to establishing a firm foundation; something many of us have felt lacking this last year.  I certainly have.

This morning in meditation I was relating this idea to the volcanic activity that happens to create mountains.  The earth shakes violently, magma erupts from the ground and from this violence mountains begin to grow.  

This past year has felt like that, hasn’t it?  Many of us have had our lives completely shaken, altered from what it had been for years or even decades before.  

But what better time than the beginning of a new year to start rebuilding – or perhaps just repairing those parts of our foundations that have been crumbling?  

growing beautifully, rooted firmly

In yoga , we begin with our feet to establish strength and ease in an asana – yoga pose.  

Feeling energy beneath every part of our foundation, often the foot or the palms, we root ourselves into the mat to allow the asana to grow from that place.  

Life is just like this.  If we establish a firm foundation before we begin a new journey, venture, practice, or year, feeling into each aspect of where we would like to go, we will establish a firm foundation that will allow us to grow towards the heavens in strength and beauty .

Establishing healthy habits is essential in beginning to build a strong foundation.  How do you begin and end each day?  Do you take time for self-care? Learning? Meditation? Healthy eating?

Keeping those healthy habits that help you function better is a fabulous goal in itself, but If you have a specific goal or goals, it is so important to write them down.  A goal that stays in our head is simply a daydream.  For most of us, we need to have something that feels tangible to keep us on task or we tend to slide back into our old patterns. 

 If you want to achieve something specific, try breaking your goals down into steps.  For example, maybe your dream has been to be a surgeon but life got in the way before you could achieve those dreams.  You met someone, fell in love and had children.  But that dream has become a cry from your soul to be fulfilled.  So you decide it’s time to move forward with your dream.

 If you wanted to get into med school next fall, that goal might seem unattainable.  But writing down the specific steps you need to get there can make the process feel much easier.  It’s like the old adage – “How do you eat an elephant?  One bite at at time.”   

Bubble graph example. Fill in each with your own dreams and goals!

Creating a bubble graph is a great way to break things down into bite-sized pieces.  You might begin with deciding which school is both desirable and accessible to you.  Online schooling is becoming more and more easy to find.  Is there a school where you can take the majority of your classes online and do the practicals on-campus intermittently?  

Let’s say you find the school, study for and pass the MCAT.  You apply for admission and are accepted.  Next would be finding grants and scholarships to cover the cost of tuition and possibly some of your day-to-day expenses such as childcare when your partner is not available.  

After that, entering school is your biggest step!  You can break down each semester’s classes in much the same way that you created your bubble graph to keep you on-task. 

Keeping things structured on a calendar that you can reference each day is a great way to keep you focused on whatever your goals might be.  

Today, I am creating my own bubble graph and making the commitment to keep to those healthy habits that keep me on-track and moving in the right direction.  I recognize that achieving the reality that I wish to see may be a slow process, like the forming of mountain peaks, but staying connected to my foundation will help me to see my dreams realized infinitely faster than having no foundation at all.   Whatever your dreams, aspirations or goals for 2021, I hope you achieve them all, and more.  You deserve it!✨ 💖✨