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Reality Formula – Creating Alignment with the Life of your Dreams

by Terah Drake, posted in self-development

“I think, therefore I am”  – Descartes

Hello, Beautiful;

In this final part of this series, I’m going to give you the formula – and the practices that will take you from Woe to Wow.  From dis-ease to ease.  

To begin, let’s go back to our core belief systems for a moment to discuss how it relates to Personality = Personal Reality.  Our Personality is created largely through our Personal Belief System, and our Personal Belief System creates our reality.  

 Here’s the basic formula for how we create our reality each day:

CBS + T + E/F +B + H = E/R  

Core Belief System (CBS) = Thoughts = Emotions/Feelings/Frequencies = 

Behaviors = Habits = Experience (Results)

Let’s break that down:  

Our Core Belief System, those neurological patterns and programs that began to be established in early childhood, tend to keep us running in a subconscious loop that are based upon our past experience.  

If as children we lived in a home where lack was the norm, it will be difficult to move past the idea that we live in a reality of lack. 

Our Beliefs will perpetuate the thoughts and emotions of lack. (How many times do parents say “we can’t afford this.  We are broke”  Or “we will buy you the cheaper version of what you really want.”  These words create our reality and personal sense of value as children.)  

Those thoughts and emotions of lack will create behaviors that reflect our beliefs. The emotions/feelings of our Core Beliefs cause our brain and body to create neurochemicals.  These can either create physical dis-ease and dysfunction, lowered immune system and a host of other symptoms or greater health, or increased immune function and energy and well-being, depending on whether our thoughts and emotions are positive or negative.    

They also create our behaviors and habits – I have a little extra cash in our pocket.  Because I believe I live in a state of lack, I spend it on some trinket – rather than saving and eventually investing in a healthy future.  The results of these habits of course just reinforce our initial belief – I spent all of my money and I am in lack again. I will always be in lack. And so we are…

Or another example – My parents taught me that I am clumsy.  As an adult, I am constantly falling on stairs, dropping dishes, etc. because I believe I am clumsy.   Falling on the stairs or dropping dishes confirms that Core Belief, putting us into vibrational alignment, which creates more similar experiences.

If we grew up in an environment where our personal reality was abundance, our pre-set programming for continuing to thrive in an environment of abundance is greater.  We will never feel a sense of lack and our behaviors and habits will reflect that.  

Of course, there are different types of lack and abundance beyond the material.  If our family was wealthy but lacked emotional intelligence or love, we will still be more likely to live a life of lack as adults.  Conversely, if we had parents that were financially lacking but loving and supportive emotionally, our capacity for thriving in an environment of abundance as adults is much greater.  

It is important to note that if we experienced childhood or adolescent trauma, our ability to create a life that reflects high personal value will be less, as well.  

This being said, we have to look at a new formula for creating the life we wish to see:

Access/Acknowledge CBS + Reprogram thoughts/Shift emotions + Alignment (Establish behaviors & habits to reflect new reality)+ Behaviors/Habits = Results/Reality

  • In order to create a new reality for ourselves, we have to access and acknowledge the source of our limiting beliefs.  What lines have you drawn in the sand without realizing it – where are those boundaries of belief and what is the origin/source?  What are the thoughts and feelings that accompany these beliefs?

Once we have accessed those beliefs and memories that are perpetuating our subconscious programming, we can begin to reprogram the mind. 

  •  Ask yourself how you would like to expand the boundaries you had previously created for yourself, likely without even realizing you had drawn those lines in the sand?  Visualize wiping those lines away.  
  • Write it down! What do you want to see in your future reality?  Vision boards are a great way to create greater clarity in visualization.  

A vital aspect of beginning to move into that future reality is the emotional vibration of it.  Can you imagine yourself there?  How does it feel? 

For example – If you have a dream of living in the Caribbean, see yourself on the beach.

Feel the warmth of the sand between your toes, cool trade breezes dancing off your skin.  See the crystal-clear turquoise of the water before you.  Imagine your beautiful plantation-style home behind you, surrounded by tall palms and lush greenery. 

I love the feeling of being on a motorcycle.  While I don’t currently own one, I often go back to the feeling visualization of racing through long country roads, green trees rushing past.  Or the wind buffeting my face as I cruise along the California coastline, tall madronas on towering cliffs above the wild Pacific ocean.  

What future reality would you like to see for yourself? It works, believe me. I’ve easily manifested sports cars, homes, amazing vacations around the world, vintage campers… and as just a few examples.  Remove your limits and start visualizing!

Clear your mind.  Get quiet.  Imagine the version of you/reality you wish to see at a distance of say, half a mile away.  Now begin to move in a straight line towards that point. Feel into that space.  Feel the joy there.  Feel the possibility there.  Feel the excitement in that space.   

Try to remain in this mindstate for as long as possible.  The longer and more often we can sustain this higher frequency state, the faster we will notice the fulfillment and manifestation of that reality.  But if you can’t quite get there all the time, give yourself love and grace.  Go back to that one happy thought that can get you closer to that future self.  

Next we need to create habits and behaviors that reflect the personality – personal reality – we want to see.  

  • A habit of presence and gratitude is an essential component in creating a better reality.  Remember that heart coherence creates a healthier body and mind and a vibrational resonance that we send out into the world around us and the quantum realm/Source frequency.  
  • Desire/Ask/Believe/Receive – But what is the vibration in which you are asking?  Tuning in to where our mind is frequently and keeping a daily gratitude journal will help keep our energetic frequencies and neurochemicals vital, healthy and happy.  
  • Create a daily habit of movement and nourishment. How you move is up to you, but daily exercise keeps both mind and body healthier and in a higher vibrational state.  

Find those other habits and behaviors that reflect the reality you are creating.  

Do you want to become an artist?  Paint!  Take classes.  Experiment with different forms of media and components. 

A writer?  Write every damned day, even if it’s only for a few minutes.  

Do you want to open a small (or big) business?  Look into an LLC and a business plan.  

Whatever your dream, try to come back to the state of being that future self (personality) holds as much as possible.  Remember that we are looking for alignment with that ideal reality/personal reality.  A good mantra is simply the question: Am I aligned?

From this place of alignment and coherence, watch the miracles begin to unfold.  I can’t wait to see what the future holds for you, beautiful one.  You deserve every good thing your imagination can hold, and more!

Much love;

  • Terah💖

Heart Coherence – Creating Alignment with the Life You Love

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

Hello, Beautiful;

We talked yesterday about the importance of finding a sense of gratitude in the present moment – in order to become more aligned with the future we wish to see.  The more often we can hold ourselves in this state of gratitude and presence, the closer we become to accessing the quantum field of possibility and achieving resonance with Source – putting power behind our prayers.  

Another of the beautiful aspects of coming into alignment with our highest selves is that we obtain a sense of peace and gratitude in the moment that causes heart coherence – our heart beats with a steady rhythm.  There is no irregularity or arrhythmia; only too common occurrences these days.  

As I mentioned in an earlier post, heart coherence reduces cortisol and adrenaline and increases output of Immunoglobulin A which increases immune function by up to 50% (!) and creates greater access to available energy.  

Studies have been done on measurable photons in the energy field surrounding the body while in a state of heart coherence. The increase in these light waves – accessible energy – is typically more than doubled. 

Wow, right?

But here’s what’s extra cool about achieving heart coherence:  When we achieve this state, our bodies produce a chemical hormone called Oxytocin.  Oxytocin is the “love hormone” that puts us in a state of bliss and connection.  This release of Oxytocin causes the heart to release a chemical called Endofillial Derived Relaxing Factor.(EDRF) 

EDRF causes the vessels of the heart to expand, not only creating greater oxygenation and blood flow, but also acting as an amplifier for all of those positive hormones and neurochemicals.  

The amplification of these hormones not only causes intense feelings of bliss but can also reset the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for processing fear and holding past trauma.  This means achieving heart resonance can literally rewire the brain.  Now that is just pretty frickin’ AMAZING.  

Stay with me, because here’s where we begin to learn the practice behind all that we have been learning about so far.  

It’s important to recognize that we can’t always immediately get into this blissful state when we have been stuck in negative thought patterns – but we can get closer to it.  

And just practicing being closer today means eventually, Bingo!  You will find yourself heart-centered, healthier, and amazed by the feeling of joy that your brain and body produce.  

When we are in this space, we begin to arrange our values, thoughts, habits, and energetic vibration (vibrational frequency) to reflect the person and reality that we want to be and see.  

We become a vibrational match for that wonderful reality that we have dreamed of. 

So how do we begin to get closer to alignment and coherence when we feel stuck?  

We start by leaning into the feeling of any thought that is better than where we currently are. 

Here’s an example – If you, like me, are someone that has suffered from Insomnia, you know that when you wake in the middle of the night, the mind tends to start racing.  

Often the thought patterns that keep us awake for hours on end aren’t necessarily happy ones.  Many years ago, I would find myself awake most nights from midnight to 4 or 5 am.  This went on for months. 

At first, I called it “doing the work” as I processed through trauma of the past for hours on end, but eventually I realized that I was no longer processing through but was instead stuck in that past pain.  

So, on the advice of Wayne Dyer, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Bruce Lipton and other experts and self-development gurus, I began to shift my thoughts to one thing that felt better in my life.  

Walking the beach with my beautiful children and happy dogs.  

Chatting with my dad over coffee on religion, mechanics, and co-creation.  

The brief but meaningful exchange I had with a beautiful stranger at the grocery store or the park that morning.  

Time spent with friends.

Teaching classes.

A beautiful bouquet of peonies or Stargazer lilies

Or whatever else I may have recently experienced that made me feel good. 

Before I knew it, a sense of peace and gratitude lulled my mind back into relaxation and I was fast asleep.  

What is vitally important here is that we don’t just think about those things that make us feel a little better but we feel or lean into the positive emotion of those memories.  This changes our neuralchemical output and begins to re-structure the brain.   

We don’t have to suffer from insomnia to practice this.  

The best time to start this feel-good meditation is in the morning, before any obstacles of the day can influence how easily we are able to access the feeling of gratitude, (I highly recommend beginning a gratitude journal each morning) but we can reach for that next good feeling any time of the day or night, bringing us closer to that place of alignment with our future selves and blissful heart coherence.  

Practice:

  • Find someplace quiet to sit or lie down in a comfortable position.  Close your eyes and take your focus to your breath, breathing deeply into your abdomen from your nose.  
  • Allow your mind to quiet, bringing the focus back to the breath each time your mind becomes busy.  
  • Observe thoughts without engaging, like watching clouds float across the sky.  
  • Think of one positive thing from the day, or the day before if you are practicing in the morning – or even something you are excited about that is upcoming.  Feel into the gratitude of that thought and space. 
  • Try to notice if that feeling is in your heart center.  If not, see if you can bring it closer to the center of the chest, just behind the sternum.  Try to stay in that place of feeling good for at least five minutes, or longer if possible.  

Each time you feel yourself beginning to cycle downward during the day in your thoughts or emotions, try to come back to that place. Practice makes perfect.😎

Tomorrow – Part 5 in the Anxiety to Alignment series:  

Personality = Personal Reality…

Creating a New You to establish a New Reality. 

Much love!💖

Formula for Creation Part I

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

Hello, Beautiful; 

The next few days I am going to take you through a series designed to give you the formula for changing your life for the better, from woe to WOW!, from being a victim of your environment to becoming a deliberate creator.   This formula is science-based and may be the most powerful thing I’ve ever written.  

So don’t scroll past.  

You can not create a positive life with a negative mind. 

Let me put this another way:  

You can not create the life of your dreams if you are living in survival mode.  

If you are experiencing anxiety, fear, frustration, anger or depression on a regular basis, you are in survival mode.  

In this lower frequency (14-40 Hz) Beta brain wave state, your brain is producing cortisol and adrenaline on the regular.  Your heart-brain coherence will be deregulated and your energetic resonance lower, which means you have less access to your energy reserves for brain and body use.  You also produce less energy in your magnetic field, what some call the aura.  

This is measurable and documented in thousands of studies.    

It’s not just a matter of damaging neuropeptides and chemicals, either.  

Your thoughts produce an electrical charge.  Your feelings produce a magnetic charge.  

The combination of these two charges create a resonance that you broadcast into the world at large – measurable in brain and heart monitors and “picked up” by those around us – as well as into the quantum field; that place where we best communicate with Source/God.  

So when we are in chronic stress, we are broadcasting messages of fear.  Of lack.  Of pain – instead of messages of love, faith, joy, and creation.  

And then we wonder why we stay in those same patterns and create the same circumstances over and over and over again; or we wonder why our prayers for a better life aren’t being heard.  

Our prayers are being answered.  We just don’t realize that our resonance isn’t asking the same thing that our mouth is.  

What’s interesting about this is that the Bible specifically says to “pray with thanksgiving”.  Gratitude is mentioned 71 times in the New Testament alone.  The Qur’an mentions gratitude numerous times and is considered a fundamental teaching of Islam.  Buddhist teachings are to cultivate gratitude as an attitude or habit.  

If we want better for ourselves, we need to be in a higher resonance or vibrational state before we start asking, and we need to stay in that state as we ask.  Gratitude is the perfect place to access that higher resonance. 

 If we can do this, miracles can begin to take place.    

Stay tuned tomorrow for a breakdown of how we alter our current trajectory to move from woe is me to WOW is me?

Connection or Identification?

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

Big breath on today’s post, babe.  I’m going to get deep on one of the key barriers to self-acceptance, authenticity, freedom and happiness.  I’m talking about those things that hold us and keep us trapped in stagnation, unable to move forward – our attachments.  

This might hurt a little as we rip off some band-aids, but it will be so worth the healing if you read to the end.  Of course, implementation is a necessary step in growth, but you’ve got this and I’m right here with you every step of the way.   

Forming attachments is a necessary and vital aspect of human existence.  If we didn’t have a connection with our friends, partners, children, and communities we would be isolated and depressed.  This is science – it has been demonstrated in numerous studies that humans are happiest when they have social support.   (http://ccare.stanford.edu/press_posts/good-social-relationships-are-the-most-consistent-predictor-of-a-happy-life/)  

We form connections and attachments to our homes, schools, pets, professions and jobs, sports teams, sense of style and a hundred other things that we identify with on the daily. 

But that is where it can get tricky.  

We need connections, but our self-worth can get so very wrapped up in those things that we identify with.

We become attached first to a thing or person, but at some point, that thing or person becomes part of who we believe ourselves to be. It is only too easy from there to lose sight of ourselves as we wrap our sense of identity up in a person, place or thing.

Connection is spirit-based. Identification is ego-based. Here’s an example many can relate to: I really love my morning cuppa joe. I would even go so far as to say I have an attachment to it. The ritual of preparation, the aroma of the freshly ground beans, the rich, cinnamon-laced chocolatey goodness as it pours into my special mug each morning is one of the things that starts my day out right. I do drink organic coffee because unfortunately, coffee is one of the least regulated food products on the planet and tends to be contaminated with mold, pesticides and a variety of other yuck that we really should never put into our bodies. Just sayin’.

But enjoying my early morning deliciousness because it makes me feel amazing vs. considering myself a “coffee snob” who only drinks XYZ coffee at XYZ time of the day with XYZ people, who of course are the best kind of people moves me from healthy connection and mentality to ego-based identification.  

I use coffee because it’s an easy example for me, but we can insert whatever attachment rings true to you – sports teams (are you obsessed with the Seahawks/Redskins/Greenbay/etc., or do you watch for the enjoyment of the sport?) to relationships (I couldn’t possibly live a happy, healthy life without my Spouse/Partner/BFF/Hookup/etc.)

Are you still with me? Here’s where we get to the real meat of the subject.

If we come to a place where that something or someone becomes so intrinsically attached to our value that we lose who we truly are, what happens when we no longer have that thing or person?  What happens when the relationship or attachment becomes toxic or no longer truly serves who we are or who we wish to be? 

When this happens, it is time to step back in order to come to an awareness of how those attachments might be holding us back from freedom, from being who we are – and who we were meant to be.  

Here’s where we rip off the band-aid and let go of those things that are familiar to us when they no longer serve or have become toxic.  Let’s be frank – it is so hard.  We humans like routine.  We like the familiar.

Or maybe better to say that we are most comfortable with the familiar.  

Stepping out of a long-held comfort zone feels – uncomfortable.  Hard.  If you are in a place where you are being forced to let go of something – or someone – deeply familiar and are overwhelmed by negative emotion, don’t beat yourself up for struggling to “let that shit go” because babe, you are not alone and there is a reason it’s hard.   

The pain of this emotional withdrawal  is a combination of our biology and our ego.  Our ego likes to create identity.  It makes us feel like we belong somewhere, that whatever we are makes us valuable –  “My name is Terah.  I’m an empath.  I’m also a mother, writer, artist, martial arts and yoga teacher and intuitive healer.”  And there you have it, right?  All that I am summed up in one sentence and wrapped up in a tidy little package.  We do the same thing to nearly everything in our lives – including God, whatever God might be.  

But fuck, babe.  I am so damned much more than those titles and labels.  So is God.  And so are you.  You are an amazing, limitless spirit that just so happens to be wrapped up in a meat suit – but even that label is inaccurate because that meat is frickin’ energy, dancing, whirling and spiraling – and just waiting for us to direct our intentional creation to it.   Cool, right?  

As long as our physical form doesn’t become just another aspect of our ego identification, that is.  Body identification can be one of the greatest inhibitors to emotional freedom there is, especially in our current society.  The trick is to want to feel your best because you love yourself, and want your external self to be a reflection of the amazing creation you are inside.   Versus having a need to look your best because it’s what society expects or where your self-worth comes from.

But I digress, a little.  The second reason it is so difficult to let go of our attachments is biology.  The longer we hold something as a part of who we are, the more those attachments become neurological patterns – starting as connections in the brain, moving to pathways and eventually, if we stay in those identities too long, those neural pathways become trenches that require Herculean effort to alter.  It’s not impossible but it is damned hard and requires nearly-constant awareness and re-programming work for a while to overcome. 

Let me give you another example – A while back, I met with my friend Michelle who is currently going through a separation from her husband.  The relationship was founded in some mutually unhealthy patterns but she was eventually able to see that those patterns weren’t serving who she was becoming and she didn’t want to remain in that stuck place any more.  They tried to work things out but just had too many of their patterns wrapped up in cycles of victimhood and dysfunction.  

Suddenly on her own, Michelle found herself grieving far more than she felt she should have been, especially as she had known where the relationship was headed for several years.  Some days she felt so heavy that she could hardly function – but she noticed it was worse when she would be in the places they had been together.  As we spoke, I pointed out that it made perfect sense – her sense of identity and value had been wrapped up in who she was in the relationship for a long time.  

She was a wife.  A partner.  A playmate.  A best friend, chef, housekeeper and a million other titles that seemed exclusive to that relationship.  How many of us can relate?  So Michelle wasn’t just grieving the end of the marriage but also who she had been in that marriage. 

Divorce isn’t just the end of a relationship.  It is too often the death of an identity.  After 15 years her neurological pathways relating to her relationship were trenches that she had to dig herself out of – an emotionally and physically painful process. 

But here’s what was awesome – having the “aha” moment of why she was having such a hard time – that she had her identity wrapped up in who she was as a wife rather than an individual and spiritual being – helped her to climb out of the depression she was experiencing.  She will still have work to do and daily affirmations to reprogram those patterns but she’s on her way to freedom, joy, and self-creation. 

Can you relate to your identity being wrapped up in something so deeply that to be without it feels devastating?  If so, loved one, now is the time to give yourself lots of grace.  Lots of love. And get to work!

–    Write down daily affirmations on your own worth – just as you are.

–    Take time to meditate.  

–    Give yourself plenty of self-care.

–    Visualize the future you wish to see – and the you

 that you want to be, ideally before bed or upon waking when your brain is in an alpha or theta state – the best time to reprogram old patterns.  

Happy healing, beloved. I can’t wait to see how joyous freedom feels on you!

Much Love

– Terah

New Math

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized

It is said that soon after his enlightenment, the Buddha passed a man on the road who was struck by the extraordinary radiance and peacefulness of his presence. 

The man stopped and asked, “My friend, what are you? Are you a celestial being or a God?”

“No,” said the Buddha.

“Well, then, are you some sort of magician or wizard?”

Again the Buddha answered, “No.”

“Are you a man?”

“No.”

“Well my friend, what are you then?”

“I am awake”. 

-– Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield, Seeking the Heart of Wisdom

Have you ever thought about the journey to Self as a mathmatical equation?

When we begin the journey of fulfillment, self-expression, and authenticity, we often add to our lives in search of those ideas, people, creative undertakings and things that speak to us personally and feel real to our truest selves.   Part of “becoming” is trying out new notions and endeavors, right?  We begin to expand as we learn new patterns and ways.

We might take up painting, or cooking, or poetry, or a hundred different creative endeavors that feed our soul.  We might make a career change or enter new relationships or even decide to have or adopt a child.  We might take up sailing, surfing, or mountaineering for the incredible connection to nature – and ourselves – that we find when we are outdoors.  

But as we continue to grow, we also begin to curate our reality.  We become more selective about what we bring into our sphere as we discover that the process of self-actualization is equally about subtracting and discarding those things in our lives that no longer serve our highest good. 

We discard old belief systems and unhealthy habits.

We discard relationships that don’t support our growth.  

We discard the excess accumulation of “stuff”, learning to live happily with those things that most resonatewith our truest selves. Those things that make our cells sing.  

In the same way a caterpillar transforms into its gorgeous butterfly self, (it literally digests itself; dissolving its corporal self into a gooey miasma to re-form into the winged symbol of beauty and joy we all love) we let go of those parts of ourself that no longer serve the fullest expression of who we are.    

Sometimes, just as I would imagine the transformation of a caterpillar into butterfly must be excruciating, the journey to our truest self can also be uncomfortable or even downright painful.  Have you ever tried to learn a new language or instrument with zero previous experience?  It can be fun, joyous, even, and exciting, but it is also challenging, frustrating, and hard. This is the reason why so many give up after just short time. 

 Building new neuralconnections and chemistry is just not an easy process – but if we stay committed to the path, it is very, very worth the end goal. Once we move through the discomfort, through the pruning and culling of that which we don’t really need, the end product – comfort, ease in our being, joy, a sense of purpose, manifestation and ultimately, the continual creation of our best reality.

Where is your journey of transformation taking you?  What habits are you letting go of – or creating – today?   

Much Love;

  • Terah

Metamorphosis

by Terah Drake, posted in Uncategorized
Metamorphosis – noun

1a: change of physical form, structure, or substance especially by supernatural means
the metamorphosis of humans into animals
b: a striking alteration in appearance, character, or circumstances
The company has gone through a series of metamorphoses.
2: a typically marked and more or less abrupt developmental change in the form or structure of an animal (such as a butterfly or a frog) occurring subsequent to birth or hatching
the metamorphosis of caterpillars into butterflies

Hello, Beautiful;

These past months have been challenging for nearly every human being around the world as a result of the fallout from Covid.  We have all experienced isolation and tension over the way we have had to change our public business and interactions.  Many of us (myself included) have lost our livelihoods, our financial, and our emotional equity.  The emotional fallout from these stressors has been hard for most and nothing short of cataclysmic for some.  We see marriages failing, families falling apart, and pretty much everyone has had to rethink the way they move in the world.  But perhaps an aspect of how we re-think things is to consider that this has been a necessary process for our society as a whole and we are in the process of transformation – metamorphosis – from a system that hasn’t worked in some time into something greater.  

Recently I have been seeing butterflies everywhere – at the lake, in my yard, on social media, when I open my email each morning.  This has gotten me to thinking about the process butterflies take to achieve their own metamorphosis and how it seems incredibly relevant to what’s happening in our society right now.  
 
We all admire butterflies for their gentleness, power of flight, and beauty.  In the Monarch particularly, the long, arduous migratory journey they make over 3000 miles each year is an incredible inspiration for perseverance.   The transformation these beautiful creatures make from lowly caterpillar to majestic butterfly is also a powerful symbolism for transformation to be used in our own lives when we are experiencing difficult circumstances.  

But did you know that when the caterpillar: an eating machine, finally stops consuming to create its cocoon, it does not just sprout wings and burst from its chamber fully-formed?  The transformation is a messy, difficult journey.  It literally digests itself into a viscous goo and gradually re-forms from that primordial soup around imaginal discs; tiny little cells that contain DNA building blocks for each body part.   

Our own transformations can be much like this.  We experience a catalyst, such as this pandemic, where the parts of our life that weren’t really working well, to begin with, break entirely.  We often experience tremendous pain or grief as we deal with the loss of whatever it was that was familiar to us; the dissolution of a marriage, the loss of a job, etc. – and dissolve into our own primordial goo for a bit as we try to manage these tremendous changes.  But slowly, we begin to re-frame our points of reference and build new foundations, hopefully around good mental health and better situations.  We may not even realize we have transformed and emerged from our cocoons until one day, we find ourselves soaring through clear skies, the sun on our face and the wind at our backs, new, stronger, beautiful, and free at last.   

If you are experiencing your own painful transformation right now, keep moving forward, and know that you are not alone in this journey. This too, shall pass.  Keep feeding yourself love, nurturing, and good and you will emerge from the darkness of your transformation back into the light.  Maybe not today, tomorrow, or even a month from now, but when you get there, you will be grateful for this experience, knowing that it brought about the radical transformation that took you from larvae to butterfly.  Much love, beautiful.