The Power of Connection

We live in a world that feels a little insane right now. 😬

 We spend hours each day distracted by the internet, the political agenda, anxiety over the ever-increasing levels of inflation, and our rage at seeing the country fall apart as bad men hold power with zero accountability.  

It leaves all of us disempowered, a lot less grounded and a little less sane as our “logical mind” is constantly being highjacked by an overwrought amygdala. (Primitive, fear-based part of the brain) 

But what if it didn’t have to be this way?  

Here’s something to consider:  

What if the fastest and surest way to find our own version of sanity and happiness is to find others who share our own, quirky, unique way of seeing and creating happiness?  

đŸ«ŁWhat if much of the division we are seeing here in the states is a very intentional agenda to distract, enrage, and disconnect us – from our ability to make sound and logical choices, from our creativity, from our higher self and most of all, from each other? 

đŸ€Humans need connection.  We have lived in small communities and tightly knit familial homes for thousands of years.  

This was for necessity and protection, of course, but also, because something our forefathers and mothers knew instinctively was that we thrive best when we are in healthy community.  

This is not just a physical phenomenon, but molecular in the unconscious information we share with those around us.  

Beyond that, living in aligned community with others is energetically empowering – when we live in a state of care and shared value, there is an agreement that is struck – let’s  call it an “atomic contract” – that our shared experience and intent becomes a potent force in the universe that 💯 can alter the framework of our reality.  

This mutual, unspoken agreement is a contract struck and held within the fabric of reality that a new, combined way of seeing reality and happiness becomes a shared venture. 

I know this all probably feels a little deep and maybe a bit “woo woo”, but remember that everything, at its foundation, is energy; âœšđŸ’«molecules vibrating at different frequencies that put information into the world of what we see as “concrete reality”; literally creating this video-game world, moment by moment.  

 Stick with me here and I will elaborate:

👉Through a shared desire to create a certain type of reality, the power to do exactly that is increased exponentially.  Your will, combining with the will of another, or others, creates a joint manifestation that can literally put into play a whole new level of existence. 

Think of how wonderful we feel when we meet another soul, whether that is a good friend or lover. 💕This feeling  is combined energy that converts our own vibration into something higher as a result of a beautiful alignment between two humans of mindset and heart resonance.  

Tiny home communities are another great example of how combined collaboration can create something greater,, as are co-ops, communes, etc.

We have been taught by religion, political powers, and societal norms(created by those in power) that we have to be “good“ in order to achieve heaven in the next realm of existence, but I don’t personally feel that the way and power from which we shape our reality has any bearing on the human concepts of “right” and “wrong”.

Look at the success Trump has had, for example.

He has a whole family who may not like each other, and all seem to be vile in their own way, but all share the common goal of acquiring great wealth and do that very, very well, though largely by nefarious means.  

(Side note:  I do believe that there is a universal shared agreement or contract that boils down to “do unto others” that we all know, inherently, and should follow.  I also believe strongly in the concept of self-judgement and a possible self-inflicted mental “punishment” – creating “heaven” or  “hell” for ourselves in the last moments before complete brain death.  We know that time is a construct, but especially inside the mind. This heaven or hell could feel like an eternity, though it’s only a few seconds, before our soul rejoins the cosmic force that we call God.  
Working on a story based on this concept rnâ€ŠđŸ”„đŸ˜‰)

But
 back to the main point.  

Royal families breeding close is another example of the power held in intentional co-creation.  Thousands of years of intermarriage keeps that power condensed and DNA lines pure. 

In Marriage vows, we are literally proclaiming in front of a group of people and to the law itself our mutual agreement of will-shaping to the Universe; as a signed and witnessed contract, giving even more energy/power to this newly shared existence. 

(Side note 2 – I do believe that we need to completely reframe and rewrite those traditional vows to reflect the new reality that we are living in -i.e. Greater equality between the sexes, greater financial freedom, a better understanding of healthy relationships and how we can choose – or not-  to be emotionally, physically and energetically healthy within the parameters of our relationships. But I’ll elaborate on that another day)

There are dozens or more examples of how connection empowers us – corporations, podcasts, etc., etc., but you probably get my point, and the purpose for this particular blog.  

We The People need to stop succumbing to the b.s.and division the System is trying to get us to conform to, connecting or reconnecting with others of shared vision and value, and start being intentional about the world we want to see created, together.  

This is how we will find our strength.đŸ’Ș  This is how we empower not only ourselves, but our loved ones and those around us.  We stand together, aligned and empowered, creating a reality where we all have abundance, wealth, and the freedom to live our lives in happiness.  

Big Love.💖

Connection

Better, together.💞

I had a dream last night that a sorcerer bound myself and two of my friends together with black string, with a few feet of length between each of us.

We attempted to cut the string, but each time we tried,  it became stronger and thicker, until it was a tightly coiled black rope that no one knew how to cut or unbind.   

We were told that there was another sorcerer in a distant land who should be able to help us, and we set out to find him, having many adventures – both challenging and fun, along the way.  On our journey, we learned to cooperate and collaborate well, and to navigate together successfully.  The thing I remember most about the feeling of this experience within the dream is the humor that we all shared at our situation, and by the time we did finally find that other sorcerer, it no longer felt like a frustration to be bound together.  

But we had come to have those ties unwound, and the sorcerer easily dissolved the ropes.  At first, we were all overjoyed to finally have our freedom and set off in three completely opposite directions to re-find our individual paths. 

But it didn’t take very long to realize that once we had become accustomed to the challenges of being so closely tied, we had all been so much happier, together. I felt a tremendous sense of sadness and loss, and I began walking back to the crossroads that we all had parted from, hoping my “family” would also be moving back that direction to find a path that we could walk together.  I awoke, still experiencing a little of that grief.  

In the Yogic tradition, we are taught that we all have invisible lines of energy called Nadis that connect us to Source, each other, and the Universe at large.  Those lines that connect us to our most loved ones are like the thick cords of my dream, but we have many etheric connections to those around us.  They are there because we need connection to others.  These cords can provide information, give and receive energy and to those trained to recognize and move energy, even heal.

But these cords can also be used to harm, siphoning energy or life force from those around or conversely, draining ourselves dry as we give too much of ourselves to others, if we are not emotionally healthy.  

The pain from this can cause us to isolate; to draw away from everyone out of our hurt and pain.  As we create this distance, we also loosen those ties and the connections we have to others, often leaving us feeling empty and alone.  I believe our addiction to technology ironically emphasizes this.  We are more connected and also disconnected than ever before – perhaps a large reason for the dramatic uptick in depression, suicidal ideation and most tragically, unaliving – a rarity until the last decade or so.  

I think the dream was a reminder that we need those cords.  It is a reminder that even when we are annoyed or frustrated with our loved ones, when we communicate, cooperate, collaborate and find healthy ways to compromise to work together, we will always be happier journeying together than when we isolate or think that we always have to walk our paths alone.  

Connection without codependency


This is not to say that codependency is a healthy thing.  If we feel that we need another human in our life to feel fulfilled – If we can’t be content or at peace when we are alone with ourselves, it is probably because there is some aspect of our internal self that we are avoiding out of fear or dislike.  There will also be times when we really do need to spend some time on our journey with ourselves – to heal, to figure out something important or just to learn to truly like and feel complete and comfortable in our own company.  

But big picture, we need those cords that keep us connected to others.  We need to be loved, and to love.  We need to share laughter, tears, ideas, adventures and experiences with other souls – our families, our friendships (framily) romantic partners, or our communities.  Ideally, a combination of all of these, and maybe even a furry companion or two (or four, for some of us
👀👀)

This need for connection and collaboration is  true on a larger scale, as well. Democrats versus Republicans, men versus women, white versus
 every other race
you get the picture.  

It’s all fear-based indoctrination and intentional segregation/separation.  But this division is not truth.  We are all a unique amalgamation of past experiences and patterns that lead us to whatever ideology we happen to be holding right right now. But if we are at the extreme of one place or another, we are in separation and lacking the balance that being able to see two sides of what is often the same coin can bring.  

 If we allowed ourselves the ability to step outside of our egos and identification to recognize the fact that underneath our ideological programs, we are all just humans, trying our best to figure things out on this big, beautiful planet.  

Wouldn’t it be better if we had the gift of many different mindsets to learn and grow from?  Not to mention, if we made all of the folks out there that we labeled as “other” or even “enemy” into friends on our journey, what an amazing, big beautiful party this life could become.

Something to think about.😎

Big love💖

Happy Enough

Let’s talk about relationships. Specifically, wanting to find a partner or companion to be in relationship with.

I love that we are living in a time when there is a tremendous amount of awareness around self-growth, healing past programs and patterns, and becoming fully authentic as individuals, rather than following a collective ideology or belief in who we “should” be.  I teach and promote this in my writing, and help clients to achieve greater levels of happiness and self-satisfaction through various therapeutic approaches.  I believe to “know thyself”  is the most important creed that we can live by.   

More specifically, perhaps that should be a three-part creed – 

  • Know Thyself; know who you are.  
  • Love Thyself; love and accept the beautiful, flawed, growing person that you are. 
  • Be Thyself; be authentic; in integrity with who you are.  

But I’ve noticed that in our desire to grow and evolve, we sometimes have a tendency to take things to an extreme –  we have developed this idea that we need to be “perfect”, especially when it comes to finding and maintaining relationships.   We are being taught that in order to attract the right partner, we have to exemplify all the things that we want to find in our mate – attractiveness, intelligence, kindness, abundance, good health, compassion, and most importantly, our level of happiness. In short, we need to be perfect. 

 I do believe that if we are committed to growth and authenticity, our baseline level of happiness is going to be a whole lot higher than someone who is stuck or stagnant; living a half-life.  But if we are aware, life, hopefully, is evolution rather than perfection. 

If we are in a state of evolution, we are never going to be perfectly healed.  Self awareness is a process of uncovering many, many layers of subconscious mindsets and belief systems.  It’s often when we think we have ourselves figured out that those systems rebel and we may feel like we take a backwards step.  But two steps forward and one back is still forward movement.  

We are never going to be in perfect shape, all the time.  We all have seasons when we might fall off the wagon of good health and exercise for a little while. That’s OK, as long as we eventually get back to caring for our temples as being the incredible vehicles of transportation through this life that they are.  If we don’t have good health, our ability to experience all that life has to offer will be limited. 

We will never be perfectly compassionate, loving, and kind – all of the time.  Like happiness, there can be contributing factors in our ability to be fully present and compassionate with others – Grief over the loss of a loved one, being in a season of necessary introspection, dealing with the myriad challenges and distractions of life, or just because we forgot to eat breakfast and are a little “hangry”. But going back to self-love and healing, if we are in a space of self-acceptance and compassion to ourselves, we are most typically going to be in that space for others, too.  

We are never going to be perfectly happy, all the time.  

There are so many factors that contribute or distract us from our happiness, but when we can come to a place of  loving and accepting ourselves as being beautiful, messy, growing creatures, we can be happy enough to find a partner who is the same.  

We can find someone who will be real with us; who will accept, love, and have grace for who we are at any given moment, knowing that sometimes humans are messy, challenging, and even difficult.  We can be accepted as we are because we are also beautiful, kind, loving, and growing.  We can give our partner the same grace, compassion and understanding, holding space for their own evolutionary process, even when it’s a little messy or uncomfortable.  

When you meet that person – a person – one of your soulmates; let the connection/relationship be what it is.  It may be five minutes, five hours, five days, five months, five years, or a lifetime.  Let it manifest itself the way it was meant to – it has an organic destiny.  This way, if it stays or it leaves, you will be softer.  From having been loved this authentically, souls come into, and return open.  They may sweep through your life for a myriad of reasons.  Let them be who and what they are meant to be. – Nayyirah Waheed

In fact, I believe it is vital for us to have healthy relationships to fully grow and heal. When we are authentic and vulnerable with our partner, we can provide for each other the necessary mirror to better see those blind spots in our personality that we may not be aware of. 

This doesn’t mean we should accept bad treatment in a relationship, of course.  If someone does not match you in treating them with value, respect, and dignity, and is not willing to do the work to heal the core wounds that cause that behavior, we need to take a big step back for our own mental wellness and safety.  It is never our responsibility to heal someone, but in a good relationship that is committed to growth, healing can absolutely happen, together.  It is important for our own self-worth that we have discernment as to what we are attracting and accepting.  

But  if you are in the  space of “I have to be perfect”
 to attract the perfect partner
 maybe give yourself – and your future mate – a little more wiggle room.  Perfection doesn’t exist.  Hold a little more lightness and space around the idea of who you are, and who you need to be to be in a relationship.  Bring some fun and some joy into the many possibilities that are out there.  You will find that when you create the energetic space of ease, of lightness and of joy around any idea, you also create space for what it is that you need and desire to rush in.✹

Big love💖

– Terah