We are taught just about from birth that our anger is not ok. That it doesn’t have a place in the world. That we should be seen and not heard and heaven forbid we actually express the way we feel.
Only too often, we end up burying traumatic and painful experiences instead of expressing and processing through them because of this societal dictate.
But babe, our #anger is just as much a part of us as our joy.
In fact, it is possibly more important because it typically expresses itself only when we really need something and our other methods of #Communication haven’t worked – or we are so emotionally in our heads that we can’t verbalize what we need or are trying to accomplish.
But when that tantrum comes, it is generally because we need something powerful.
More #love
Less judgement (most of all from ourselves)
More space (it is 💯 ok for our kids – or ourselves – to not want to be touched sometimes) – or maybe we really need a big hug.
Or to be heard, or seen, or valued in some way that we are not receiving.
Or a hundred other big and small reasons that that ”monster” side of ourselves flares up.
Finnish/Scottish temper here, so believe me, I get the slow burn right up to flaming redhead watch the f#ck out pissed-ness, lol. 🤯🤷♀️🙄
When we are taught as children to repress our negative emotions, that anger, sadness, fear, etc. doesn’t just disappear into the ether.
It gets buried in our subconscious and eventually, like a really bad boil that becomes infected, will express itself in ways that are usually destructive to ourselves or others.
We turn to bullying. Or self-harm. Or stealing. Or addiction. Anything to perpetuate the cycle of denying our truths; of denying our “negative” emotions.
But when we allow that anger to #express what it needs to express, not only are we better equipped to give our kids, ourselves, and others the guidance or whatever it is that is needed in the moment, but that heat cools quickly to be replaced by joy; a quick storm turning to sunny skies.🌞✨
And each time we give our children or ourselves the grace to speak our truths openly and honestly, we are creating a better future for everyone.
So the next time your wee one (whether it is your child, partner, or your own beautiful inner child) throws a tantrum, slowwwwwww down. Ask yourself and them what it is that is trying to be communicated.
Give that precious child what they need and watch as your relationships improve dramatically.
Much love and big hugs!💖
@selfcarewarrior 👏💕
#honoryouranger #shadowwork #opencommunication #kids #kidsarepeopletoo #healing
This Blessed Sacred Life 